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The Power of Loving, Approving and ForgivingJuly 30, 2015
After 30 plus years of seeking and exploring, I recently found myself referring to one of the very first books, You Can Heal Your Life, by Louise L. Hay, that I first read long ago as I began my quest of self-awareness, transformation and growth. The knowledge and wisdom it contained truly resonated with me back then. After studying numerous spiritual philosophies, new thought viewpoints and transcendent insights throughout the years, the information and knowledge from You Can Heal Your Life still stands strong today. It holds a prominent position on my list of the top 10 books I consider to be the most impactful in my pursuit of discovering and understanding the mystical, the unseen and often mystifying side of life. Truth and wisdom always seem to stand the test of time.
I was led to consult the book a few weeks ago as I searched for some insight regarding an issue for a friend of mine. I often get an intuitive prodding to explore something accessible in my home for further awareness and insight. Whatever material I'm guided to always reveals something pertinent to consider and contemplate. I recall thinking after that incident it would be beneficial to read the entire book once again. I'm sure I've read it at least 7-8 times, but it had been a good decade since the last complete reading. So I began that very night to read it once more from cover to cover.
This go around I found myself being clearly drawn to information I needed for myself as well as clients and friends who happened to be asking me about situations where the material I came upon would really be quite helpful and supportive for everyone's issues. When we ask for answers with an open mind, the universe will always support and accommodate us.
What really stood out was the point Louise made that no matter what problem a client was needing help with - money, health, relationship issues, etc. - there would only ever be one thing they'd work on - loving the self. When we love and approve of ourselves exactly as we are, then everything in life flows. If things aren't going well in one area, then you are holding a pattern, a belief that will always be related to some variation of "I'm not good enough" which also translates to not loving the self. If the belief is very strong in your programming, then your main subconscious belief would always be opposing and resisting your conscious attempts at creating a joyous, healthy, prosperous and loving life. Self-sabotage in the making for sure.
Louise states that guilt, criticism, resentment and fear are the four things which are responsible for creating the predominant problems found in our bodies and in our lives. These feelings originate from not taking complete responsibility for our own lives and all our experiences. When we do take 100% responsibility then there is no one else to blame for anything. The outer experience is always a reflection of our individual belief or way of thinking. This understanding is not to condone poor behavior by others but to gain awareness that it is OUR pattern that attracts those who treat us that way. Once we release the pattern, we will not attract those kind of experiences as we are no longer a match for it.
A belief is just an idea or thought which we've taken on as a truth for ourselves and that belief can be released and replaced with that which is beneficial and supportive to our well-being. The vast majority of our patterns were taken on when we were very young and did not question their validity. We no longer need to allow any unhealthy or destructive programming from the past to run our lives or direct the show.
It is imperative as part of the process to release the past by forgiving everyone, ourselves included. The good news is that we just need to be willing to let it all go. The universe will take care of the hows. A wonderful mantra to get things rolling is to affirm: "I now realize that I have created this condition and I am now willing to release the pattern in my consciousness that is responsible for this condition." The next step would be to claim and affirm what we do want to replace the old programming.
Another effective suggestion that Louise offers for getting to the heart of releasing on our forgiveness mission is to state: "I forgive you for not being the way I wanted you to be." Or "needed you to be" or perhaps "hoped you would be". "I forgive you and I set you free." This affirmation actually sets us free. I have myself felt the massive effect that using this affirmation offers. I've also discovered the great power of using it to forgive myself for anything which I personally feel responsible for creating. It is now one of my favorite "go to" processes in my magic bag of self-help tools and techniques.
According to The Course in Miracles, "All disease comes from a state of unforgiveness." And "Whenever we are ill, we need to look around to see who it is that we need to forgive." Remember the person that you find it hardest to forgive is the one you really need to forgive the most! Again, it's not about condoning their behavior, but about letting go so that YOU can move forward by dropping the energetic density that unforgiveness holds. It has a way of depleting and contracting your being and your spirit on many levels. It's truly an act of loving self-care to finally release the weight of it all!
Part of the awareness we gain from truly forgiving ourselves and others is that we are each doing the best we can with the understanding and knowledge we had at the time. It may be difficult to comprehend, but those who caused us pain were also in pain. When we know better we do better.
When we create a space of self-approval and self-acceptance we become people who really love and care for ourselves and our bodies, and will not abuse ourselves or others as a result. Something else that Louise wrote which has stayed with me since I first read it 30 some years ago, is that loving the self begins with never ever criticizing ourselves for anything. Period.
"Criticism locks us into the very pattern we are trying to change. Understanding and being gentle with ourselves helps us to move out of it." Powerful and healing words I took to heart which still hold a prevailing impact for me. If you've been criticizing yourself constantly for years, it's just not possible that it has brought about any positive change in your life.
So how about we amp up our intention of using the power of loving, approving and forgiving ourselves and others and see what happens ... I can assure you that you'll be delighted, excited and thrilled with the results ... woo-hoo!
The Power of Loving, Approving and Forgiving
Tuesday, August 4th, 2015
5:30 PM (Pacific)
8:30 PM (Eastern)
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Quotes to Ponder
I think the most important thing in life is self-love, because if you don't have self-love, and respect for everything about your own body, your own soul, your own capsule, then how can you have an authentic relationship with anyone else?
Forgiveness is the final form of love.
A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.
One forgives to the degree that one loves.
~Francois de La Rochefoucauld
The incredible power that loving, approving and forgiving hold in creating a JOYful life!
Mark your calendar for my next teleseminar, Tuesday, August 4th, 2015 at 5:30 PM (PST) and join me for a JOYful evening filled with inspiration, information and more ... yippee!
May each day bring you more JOY, unexpected and happy surprises and...
...the next step for Livin' in the FUN Zone!